When Children HurtCategory: Family
Article added by: Stevee Ashlock
Most often we think of children as little ones. Although, as adults, we are still the children of our parents. As adult children, it is painful to see our parents age. Once our rock and foundation, we depended on their wisdom to solve all the worldly problems. Now, it hurts to see that their end is near as their health, mobility and mental sharpness start to dissipate. The slow decline in their independence is inevitable. They become unsure of themselves, which in turn restricts their lives.
Daily activities are routine, because anything out of the ordinary may set in place a chain of terror. Their golden years start to mesh into days of doctor appointments and scheduled medications. It is devastating to watch parents’ eye sight and motor skills diminish to the point that driving becomes dangerously difficult. This is a great loss of independence from them.
Their taste buds are not as keen, spicy food upset the stomach, and meals become challenging with fewer teeth. It is much easier to open a box or can instead of fixing a balanced meal. Even stairs are a nightmare; one more cause for falling and bruising. A broken hip can cause a domino effect of health issues resulting in death.
Forgetfulness is frustrating for both you and your parents. Simple things from finding keys and important papers to paying bills and remembering special dates are aggravating traumas. Hours are spent fruitlessly looking for something that is right in front of them. Being repeatedly asked the same question is annoying. To the forgetful parent, they don’t understand why you don’t want to answer their questions.
Worry overcomes the adult children’s minds asking questions, “What do I do if my parents are not able to care for themselves anymore? How do I make sure that their last days are lived with dignity? How will I cope with losing my parents?” As adult children, the process of making important decisions for parents is an agonizing anguish. It is hard to know if one is doing the right thing until it is done. Then it may be too late. So who knows? Meanwhile, that fear shadows each decision. The feeling of helplessness is aspirating, but there is no time to feel sorry for oneself.
Be sure not let these important decisions overwhelm the situation. Cherish each day, no matter what the struggles may be. Reassure your parents that they are not a burden and will be loved unconditionally until their very last breath. You will have time to grieve after they are gone; now is not the time.
By preparing all the necessary legal documents ahead of time, it will help set everyone’s mind at ease during your parent’s journey through their golden years. Knowing their requests will gracefully merge the bridge to their final wishes.
Will this hurt ever end? Probably not. There will always be a void in your life that only your parents can fill. Time will ease the pain, but fond memories keep will keep their legend alive.
Posted By: Stevee Ashlock
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| About the Author: |
| From Africa to Atlanta, Stevee Ashlock, owner of Stoneybrook Productions, is an international speaker, trainer and image consultant appearing at universities, conventions, conferences and associations. Highlights include speaking engagements at the GTTI University in Banjul, The Republic of Gambia, West Africa, and the 2007 CyberCrime Summit at Kennesaw State University.
As a keynote speaker, Stevee facilitates corporate seminars and interactive workshops concentrating on the professional’s presentation. Stevee has participated in numerous high profile criminal trials, working side-by-side with the counsel team, coaching and refining important strategies used in the courtroom to elevate jury awareness and comprehension of their witnesses and evidence.
Stevee provides clients with a fresh insight and unique image consulting service specializing in the effective preparation of the professional. She strategizes one-on-one with her clients to perfect their efficiency and dynamics. She blends science and art into effectual communication that will be vitally important to how someone perceives you, which ultimately affects your credibility.
Stevee was recently induced into the Madison Who’s Who of Executives and Professionals Registry for signification accomplishments, contribution to society and dedication toward exemplary goals. As a published author and syndicated columnist, Stevee has earned the Editor’s Choice Award from the International Library of Poetry.
Stevee is a member of the Toastmasters International and an author and syndicated columnist. In her spare time, Stevee dedicates her time to numerous charities. |
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