Last Place Loser: A Guide to FailureCategory: Social Issues
Article added by: Stevee Ashlock
Seek approval from others. Living by other’s approval is a no-win situation. Your entire life will be sucked away from you. Somewhere you lose yourself and forget your original purpose. Life is aimless without passion and purpose, whether in your business or personal life. Live with meaning and direction. Take time to re-evaluate your life and make the necessary adjustment to live a fulfilling and rewarding life.
Try to please everyone. There is a song from the seventies that says, "Can’t please everyone, so you got to please yourself.” Well, I would not go that far, but it does have a point. Trying to please everyone is frustrating, because it is an unobtainable task! Most people want to be liked, so they go with the majority’s desire. The best solution is to seek out the truth and do the right thing. Stay true to your inner beliefs.
Do it all yourself. Doing it yourself is a great learning lesson, but it is timely and costly. We are human; therefore, everyone has limitations. There is a saying, "Divide and conquer!” A key to leadership requires learning how to properly manage and delegate responsibilities. Know when to call in the troops. There is no shame in admitting you need help.
Become a worry wart. Why Worry, Be Happy is a great tune to whistle when doom set into your mind. Great energy is spending worry about things that more than likely will never come to pass. If they do, it is only because you gave it energy and set yourself up for the prediction.
Continuously doubt yourself and abilities. Doubt will eat up your self-confidence. The world continuously bombards you with negativism. It is your duty to shield yourself and not absorb this energy by allowing it to affect your sense of well-being. This includes your mind, body and spirit.
Be driven by fear and guilt. F- False E-Expectations A-Appearing R-Real: Fear is the strongest of all emotions. Look around you to see how advertisers use fear based campaigns to sell their products or services. It is an instant seller, because everyone can relate to it. Fear will control more of what you chose not to do, than what you chose to do. Guilt operates similar to fear, but in reverse. Often people will do things under the pressure of guilt that they normally would never do under regular circumstances. Image how much more rewarding your life may be if you would eliminate fear and guilt from your life.
Be controlled by emotions. Emotions are in continuous change and often are not stable. If you are basing decisions on how you feel at that moment, you are setting yourself up for major disasters! Never make an important decide in the heat of passion, positive or negative. Take time to step away to distance yourself from the situation emotionally and take a complete overview, before moving forward.
Live in resentment and anger. Anger creates explosive conditions. Turning anger inward destroys your physical and mental health. Acting out your aggressions will cause permanent, irreversible damage. Allow others the human factor and take the step to let go of your resentment. Give yourself permission to be freed from its bond. The freedom you will experience will release untapped energy you could never image you have.
Focus on the problem, not the solution. Whenever a situation arises, resists the urge to point the finger and blame others. Instead, reverse your thinking and focus on the solution. How are you able to resolve the situation by creating a winning outcome for everyone involved?
Believe materialism will make you happy. Money is not the root of all evil, but many people choose to worship it. Obviously, as responsible citizens, spouses, parents, etc., we want to provide the best we can for our loved ones. Be careful not to lose the balance and get your priorities turned upside down. What you care most about is where you spend your most time and efforts. Material things come and go with different life situations. Validating your value system on how many toys you have collected, has no stability. Life changes on a dime, but your value system should remain consistent.
Posted By: Stevee Ashlock
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| About the Author: |
| From Africa to Atlanta, Stevee Ashlock, owner of Stoneybrook Productions, is an international speaker, trainer and image consultant appearing at universities, conventions, conferences and associations. Highlights include speaking engagements at the GTTI University in Banjul, The Republic of Gambia, West Africa, and the 2007 CyberCrime Summit at Kennesaw State University.
As a keynote speaker, Stevee facilitates corporate seminars and interactive workshops concentrating on the professional’s presentation. Stevee has participated in numerous high profile criminal trials, working side-by-side with the counsel team, coaching and refining important strategies used in the courtroom to elevate jury awareness and comprehension of their witnesses and evidence.
Stevee provides clients with a fresh insight and unique image consulting service specializing in the effective preparation of the professional. She strategizes one-on-one with her clients to perfect their efficiency and dynamics. She blends science and art into effectual communication that will be vitally important to how someone perceives you, which ultimately affects your credibility.
Stevee was recently induced into the Madison Who’s Who of Executives and Professionals Registry for signification accomplishments, contribution to society and dedication toward exemplary goals. As a published author and syndicated columnist, Stevee has earned the Editor’s Choice Award from the International Library of Poetry. Stevee is the author of Credibility is Believability, Techno Security's Guide to E-Discovery and Digital Forensics by Syngress Publishing.
Stevee is a member of the Toastmasters International and an author and syndicated columnist. In her spare time, Stevee dedicates her time to numerous charities. |
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